Being in your teenage is that awkward stage when you are a kid trying to be an adult. During these formative years, you would think you know everything about love. But the million-dollar question is – “Do you really know everything about love?”. It’s easy to be confused between dating and falling in love. Teenage relationships can be tricky. In reality, dating and falling in love aren’t synonymous.
Most would have their first experience of dating or will fall in love in their teenage years. Teenagers think relationships are rosy, and love is the cure-all for all the problems existing in the world. ‘Living in the bubble’ for a while is okay, but all the time it has disaster written all over it. There are relationship problems you are bound to come face-to-face. It is up to you how you deal with it.
Here are nine ways you can stop love from sabotaging your life.
Are you ready for it?
First thing you need to ask yourself, ‘ Are you ready for a relationship?’. Don’t let peer pressure get to you. Just because all your friends are dating, doesn’t mean you have to be in a relationship.
It’s okay to take your time. Be assured that you are genuinely interested in dating. This way, you aren’t dragging around a person who is honestly interested in you and wants to have a relationship with you.
Crush and love
Being a teenager is already a confusing business. To this pile of mess, you add in lovey-dovey feelings, and you have a big bowl of madness. At this age, you will feel this is the most significant decision of your life. But it is up to you if you let it be or not.
You may have started dating someone thinking he or she is cute. You may have developed a crush. Go for it. Dating is all about getting to know the person. If the crush isn’t evolving into something more, you should revaluate your relationship.
Teenage relationships are fun, so enjoy it. But you need to draw a line on how fun it needs to be.
Looks aren’t everything
Your relationship might have started by thinking he/ she is cute, or he/she is hot. I mean come on, after all, you all are teenagers. Looks would definitely factor in how likely you are going to date a person. Will it last to be a successful relationship? That’s a different story.
Don’t be vain in judging a person entirely by their looks. If you want your relationship to last long, then you need to connect to a person on different levels. You should have some deep conversations with each other. So be wise in investing your valuable time.
Be your unique self
Trying to be someone else is exhausting. Just imagining it makes me weary and bone-tired. You aren’t looking to impress the whole damn world.
Nobody can say honestly. If you find someone, I swear to God they are an alien in disguise.
Be your authentic self. If you are a nerd, be a nerd. Imagine a relationship where you are constantly acting like a different person. Sooner or later your partner will find out. It isn’t wise to build a relationship on shaky foundations.
You just want one person to like you. Don’t fret it. They are going to love you with all the quirks and wonders.
Take it slow
You aren’t going to get married anytime soon. Teenage relationships are a starters course. You are barely two digits old, for god sake. So have fun and let the relationship take its natural course. Don’t try to fast-forward it.
No one likes to hear; ‘I love you’ on the first date. So, know your pace and make sure both of you want the same thing out of your relationship. If he/she isn’t serious, do not waste your breath. You deserve better than that.
Don’t let love blind you
First love is beautiful and sacred. It is a feeling and experience you can never repeat. Having said that, don’t let yourself think love is the whole world. Relationships have their place, and you have other priorities too.
Don’t ignore studies and compromise your long-term goals for relationships. Relationships are essential, and I am not stating otherwise. Learn to balance and prioritize your tasks.
Learn the art of being in a relationship and achieving your goals. Don’t let the love of a teenage relationship blind you.
Friends first, lovers second
The best way to navigate a teenage relationship is to be the best of friends with each other. Being friends in a relationship is the best foundation laid. You’ll have the best times with each other and also create lasting memories-snuggling with each other, quizzing each other for next day test, having ice-cream dates.
Have double dates with your friends, this way you aren’t ignoring your friend circle and also spending time with each other. This way, you have a win-win situation.
Think before you take the leap
Teenage is that phase of life where your hormones are raging, and half the things don’t make sense to you. You never know: when you are thinking with your sound mind and when you are just letting the physical urges make the decisions for you.
Think twice before you leap, becoming physically intimate isn’t an overnight decision. You should be aware of the repercussions you will face if you aren’t practicing it safely. Don’t let one misguided decision change your life course. Wrap it before you tap it.
Shit happens, get over it!
Don’t get into a relationship thinking you will be together forever and living happily ever after. I am sorry to say it isn’t the reality. Be open to a relationship to fail. Breakups hurt, and there’s no way around it.
But you decide how you get up and march forward. Shit happens, and you can do something about it, Get over it. Don’t keep on reiterating it in your mind, over and over again, like a broken record. Dust yourself, pull yourself together and keep moving forward.